It’s where she published her first writing and found her first readers through early diary blogs and poetry forums. Online is where, at age 19, Lockwood met the man she would marry at age 21. These websites destabilized something inside her, she said they “opened a crack” for her to reevaluate what she had been taught.Īt 38, Lockwood describes herself generationally as “between the books and the ether.” She remembers a time before the internet while still being young enough to immerse herself in it as it was developing - young enough that it could help set her life in motion. These statistics have to be fake because there’s this little dancing-child graphic in the corner of the page or there’s a rose that’s slowly losing its petals.

Raised in the Catholic Church, Lockwood spent the early years of her life absorbing her parents’ anti-abortion beliefs and activist language about the “Holocaust of infants.” But when she started visiting anti-abortion activist websites in the aughts, when she was in her early 20s, she was put off by the treacly graphics and coarse design - how could they be serious? These facts can’t be real, she remembers thinking then.

The internet deprogrammed Patricia Lockwood. Photo: Pari Dukovic for New York Magazine

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